Last Thursday, I released an article exploring how we treat half the population responsible for birthing you and me.
Read it here.
Today, I delve into the meaning and significance of a woman, the reasoning behind her नाज़ुक (tender) existence and how this frail flower needs to be respected by even a man with balls in today’s world.
Note: I edited the article a bit and changed the language as per the feedback for the first part. Do share your opinions on this one.
Do you know what a woman actually is?
“How can you appreciate what you don’t even have the capacity to understand?”
So said Lestat de Lioncourt (in Interview with the Vampire)
Most of us don’t know enough about women to truly appreciate their existence.
Except for their boobs and vagina, the rest of a woman is seen as a man.
This may seem a small revelation, but it explains why men compare women to themselves so easily and scoff at them because they are ‘weak’ and thus below them in their unconscious minds.
Women are indeed born gentler and more nimbler than men, we are not strong and muscular or even practical at times, but emotional creatures.
Our bodies are fragile oddments, a man can lift heavy, work heavy and be built rough and tough, but the body of a woman is limited in comparison to a man’s because from the very beginning of its existence, it is customised to nurse the posterity, not fight men’s battles alongside them.
This explains why women are seen as inferior creatures in an imaginary championship most aren’t even aware of.
This ignorance is so widespread that our previous generation of women intentionally bowed to their male partners and took everything with silence, because they were taught this same cocktail of ignorant and harmful ‘reality of life’.
Perhaps the most evident signs of this deep-rooted ignorance are the myths around menstruation, an essential biological process thought of being ‘impure’ and ‘dirty’.
In India, only two types of women are respected:
A mother
कंजक में बैठने वाली कन्या (Girls who sit for kanjak)
At the cost of a woman’s monthly health who may or may not become a mother one day.
But even this respect is कहने सुनने की बातें (only for talks).
Have you never heard of a girl child or a dadi ki age ki women being raped in India?
The biology of menstrual blood
It is surprising how the same men who want nothing more than to put themselves beneath a pussy will avoid women like a plague once she starts leaking blood instead of cum.
Menstruation is the sign of a fertile woman, but during periods, a bleeding woman is avoided just like a woman who does not bleed or birth is during the shaadi matchmaking season.
Mothers are respected because they birth mankind, but chutiya is still a gaali.
There’s more to a woman’s body than boobs and vagina.
But a female body doesn’t just suddenly sustain life to give birth to these fools one day.
It prepares its whole life for it.
It is also this cycle that gives her body the frailty and imbalance everyone looks down upon this gender for.
One of the most irksome ignorant elements are the ones who remark, ‘इतना क्या दर्द होता है?’ (How much does it even pain?)
If a man’s body were to produce an egg every month, used a substantial amount of the incoming nutrition to prepare for an egg which may or may not be fertilised during the month, and contracted every month (sometimes similar to a mother in early labour) to ‘throw’ out this nutrition, I highly doubt they could continue living their blissfully ignorant lives.
The hormonal cycle, the constant ups and downs of the chemicals which affect happiness and give rise to the ‘drama’ women infamous cycle.
The ‘impurity’ that flows out is the nutrition-rich lining of the womb, and you need not take my word for it.
Mix 1 part of the blood with 9 parts of water and watch a plant bloom with life and rigour.
How emotions keep the world together
As mentioned earlier, women indeed are more emotional than their male counterparts.
There is a difference, however, between emotional creatures and emotional fools.
My mother suffered from domestic violence till she was diagnosed with psychosis, a result of the incessant trauma to her mind and body.
Had she not been so emotional, she would have left the house without me and my younger brother long ago, to deal with a father crazed with his powers as a household head he never really deserved.
My undesirable existence might have vanished without a trace, had my mother not protected me out of emotions, over the cost of her own mind and body.
I could have died and you would never be able to read this.
I am also a very emotional creature, and it is out of these emotions that I jumped in every time to protect my mother from him.
My brother was too young to understand the situation or take a stand, but if he had taken the celebrated masculine route to power, I doubt there would be anything left to call a home.
Thankfully my brother grew up a far gentler man than my father (hopefully due to my influence as well), and he moves people with music, the same I do with words.
We are both against this irrational battle of the sexes and influence people’s emotions, connect with them at their core and move them to establish peace.
A far more practical way would be to punish our father, take up a road and stalk the streets to take out every stalker, harasser and eve-teaser.
Sound familiar?
This is what the bajrang dal does to everyone who dares to display love, not apathy for women publicly.
Without legal boundations or emotional thinking, these ‘masculine’ men are spreading hate for the very thing they claim to protect.
Spoiler alert: There is no future for me to talk about here
Our country today is suffering from an abundant lack of critical thinking, which is why we have insults like:
“हाथों में चूड़ियां पहन रखी हैं क्या?” (Are you wearing bangles?)
“लड़कियों की तरह क्यों रोते हो?” (Why are you crying like girls?)
“लड़की हो क्या?” (Are you a girl?)
But a country that worships Durga and silences women doesn’t need more steel.
What it needs is Saraswati: the courage to think freely, analyse ruthlessly and speak fearlessly.
No country can face the future while abusing the very women who birth it.
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